The Blind Date
So, you are in the market for a new home. Maybe, you are retiring? Maybe you are purchasing your first home. Maybe your family is growing and you need more space or you are looking for an investment property. No matter your reasons for wanting to buy a home and no matter how many times you have been through the process, let’s face it, buying a home is really like going on a blind date.
According to datingadvice.com, 43% of Americans have admitted to going on a blind date. We feel like that number might be a bit higher, but a few of us (wink wink) are definitely not going to confess…we plead the 5th! If you are currently in the dating pool you know how terrifying a blind date can be. For those of you happily coupled up or happily single, we know that you too remember what fear the idea of a blind date brings.
You head to a restaurant or coffee shop to meet the intended blind date with a bit of trepidation, excitement, maybe some anxiety. Maybe you hope for the best but expect the worst. Isn’t plunging into the real estate market characterized by the same emotions? You have seen the profile of the house on line, lingered over the photos and description, weighed the pros and cons and have decided to now go on a blind date with that property. Because let’s face it all you know before you enter the front door is how the house appears-it’s external shell. No different than going on a blind date with someone. Your friends or family have likely set you up. Maybe, and in this age of technology more likely than not, they have shared a photo of your intended blind date with you. As you arrive at the intended meeting spot all you know is what the exterior of that individual looks like. It takes time to peel the layers away to reveal the true character of an individual. A property is no different.
Relationship experts offer up that at an initial meeting it takes anywhere from 30 seconds to 5 minutes for one party to decide if they are interested in the other party or not. How fast do you decide if you are interested in a property or not? Have you ever driven up to a property and realized the reality of the exterior did not match the exterior presented on the internet? No different than arriving for your blind date and wondering who the person is that showed up because they look nothing like their profile picture. If you arrived at the property that looks nothing like the presentation on the MLS did you just drive away or spend some time and peel back the layers? My guess is that you bailed….just like I have (yes I am freely admitting this) when my blind date turned out to be old enough to be my father. (the picture I was shown was, how shall we say this nicely, edited).
Let’s explore a different path. You show up for your blind date nervous and anxious. You meet your date and are pleasantly surprised to discover that the exterior in real life does match the exterior a friend or family member showed you a picture of. You spend some time making small talk and suddenly you realize that the nervousness and apprehension are subsiding. You feel comfortable and you like that feeling of comfort. That is no different from walking into a home and feeling the warmth and the walls of a home wrap around you like a hug. It is that moment when you know this might just be the right date, the right person, a new start, or the right home for you.
At Boutique Real Estate Inc., we understand the emotions that come with buying and selling a home. Arguably this is one of the biggest decisions of your life and the biggest financial decision of your life. It is OK to be emotional. It is OK to have some anxiety, trepidation and reservations. It is OK to date the property that you find comfort in. It is also ok if a goodnight hug is not an option at the end of the date. If the fit isn’t right, well don’t force it. Our best advice to you: take a deep breath, except the emotions that come with the journey, lean on your agent, weigh the pros and cons, and know that whether this is your first time venturing into the market or you are a veteran you will survive. Hey you survived a blind date or two, right?